Archetypes and Dating

Do archetypes play into dating? Heck yes! Red flags, re-directions and ways to find love without going mental.

Dating Survival Guides Part 4: Check Yo Self

Ever get super annoyed about a date's habit of eating loudly, or feel uncomfortable because they have a super hot ex?  It can be oh so easy to extrapolate small things into relationship-stopping catastrophes even when other aspects of the situation are great.  When...

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Heart Break Through

Heartbreak is a term most often associated with the unfortunate end of a romantic relationship.  It's also a pervasive pattern that intersects every single human life everywhere.  When we hear a friend say, “My heart is broken,” we can relate in an instant without...

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Dating Survival Guides Part 3: Safety vs. Strength

If dating seems like an ordeal, you are not alone.  I've heard many versions of  "I'm not dating because it sucks"  from all sorts of people; gay, straight, men and women of all ages.  I've expressed that sentiment myself more than a few times, but I also know that it...

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Dating Survival Guides Part 2: You Are Enough

They say to always lead with your strength. I'm going to lead with one of my weaknesses - sometimes I feel like I'm not enough. Not smart enough, pretty enough, rich enough, thin enough etc. Basically, take any positive quality and put 'not' in front and 'enough'...

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Meet Your Dating Survival Guides

Dating can feel like a trip to the amusement park, filled with excitement, ups, downs and the occasional sense of inertia. Certain archetypes can help serve as guides for keeping grounded while amidst the thrills and spills of dating life. So far I've written about...

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Archetype attraction pt 3: Shared Archetypes

In part 2 of this series, I wrote about the ways of Romantic Archetypal Attraction where people are drawn together by the complimentary needs and attributes of their archetypes.   Equally important is the kind of an attraction to someone because of shared qualities. ...

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Romantic Chemistry: The Knight and the Damsel

The Knight and the Damsel are a matched set of patterns with naturally occurring complimentary attributes and dysfunctions. This can be true of any couple with these archetypes no matter their gender, same, different or otherwise. While we think of the Knight as a man and the Damsel a woman, that’s not always the case. I’m going to go the traditional route here but keep an open mind that the archetypes are not necessarily gender specific.

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Archetype attraction part 2: Romantic Chemistry

Read Archetype attraction part 1: The Basics Romantic Archetypal Chemistry is based on complimentary needs.  Typically it's either an archetype we value or one that reflects qualities we want to see in ourselves.  This is the kind of attraction we usually think of in...

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Archetype attraction part 1: The Basics

We are attracted to people by archetypal patterns.  For most people it can be so subtle that you don't know what's going on, but paying attention to these powerful patterns can really improve your dating experience.  I mean, wouldn't you want something to help guide...

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Archetypes and Dating 101

I was at a gathering recently and mentioned that I was thinking of writing about archetypes and dating. Heads swiveled, glasses stopped clinking and I had the feeling that I was in some sort of TV commercial with all eyes on me.  Everyone wanted to know more and where...

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